Gay Marriage: Why do gay couples want to get married? Opposition, support and cynicism.

by frazeefeet on Septembre 13, 2013 - 10:03pm

We are in a day and age where it is becoming more socially acceptable for two men or two women to display their love for each other in public by getting married. More states within the United States are legalizing gay marriage, more people are in support of providing civil rights and liberties to gay and lesbian citizens and there has been an increase in the number of openly gay and lesbian citizens which now make up 3.47% of the total population in the United States. With that being said, just because gay marriage is becoming more acceptable does not mean that opposition does not exist. There is still a large part of the population that does not agree with the idea of two people of the same sex getting married for various reasons, the two main ones being religious and political affiliations. And even more specifically, studies have shown that the main demographic of people in the United States that disapprove of gay marriage are heterosexual men.

            In terms of the actual study that took place in this article, the study focused on the subjective reasons for why gay men get married. The results showed that most people believed that gay men do not get married for love whereas most people believe that heterosexual men get married for love. Yet, ironically results also showed that most people believed that gay men were less likely to get married for superficial reasons, such as marriage benefits, than heterosexual men are.

            This article posed many valid points of how society in the United States views homosexuality. What I found to be the most intriguing was the hypocritical results that showed that even though people believe gay men are less likely to marry for superficial reasons than heterosexual men it is believed that gay men still do not marry for love. These results support the idea that we live in a heteronormative society, meaning that because being heterosexual is the norm, anything outside of that is either looked down upon or “watered down” for the general public to understand. Being openly gay or lesbian definitely falls in the “outsider” category even though acceptance of homosexuality is on the rise. And even in that sense, being gay is only acceptable to the general public to a certain extent. As soon as people begin to feel uncomfortable it is immediately looked down upon again, which I do not see as acceptance in my eyes. As cliché as it sounds, people should be able to love whomever they want to love regardless of gender or sexual orientation. Just because two men marrying each other does not adhere to the traditions of marriage, which are also a set of heteronormative standards, does not mean that they are not in love. Love is subjective and therefore cannot be viewed through an objective lens from a biased perspective. Yes, both homosexual and heterosexual men can get married based off of superficial reasoning, but they can also get married based off of true emotion.