Childfree, no kidding!

by tanguaymarilou on Mai 1, 2017 - 5:33pm

Danielle Stanton wrote the article “Ces Femmes sans Enfants par Choix” for the “Vero” magazine, which is a francophone magazine mainly addressed to women. This article was published on August 14th, 2014 and a summary of Stanton’s paper will be presented through this essay. Here’s the link for the article: http://veroniquecloutier.com/oser-etre-soi/ces-femmes-sans-enfants-par-choix.

 

Stanton’s article addresses the issue that some women deliberately refuse to procreate. In her article, she reports the interviews she conducted with many women and most testimonies included are from women who decided to be childfree. Those women argue that not giving birth is a choice that should not be seen as controversial nowadays and that such decision should be respected due to the fact that the society is not church-based anymore. They point out that it is possible to be accomplished as a woman without having children and, according to Stanton, women do not have an obligation to follow a predetermined path in order to have a great life. In the modern society, life goes beyond going to school, having a job and then giving birth. In fact, there are thousands of different paths that a woman can follow in order to bloom. However, some women feel judged when they share their desire to not have a child. Some are even called egocentric, because they supposedly prioritize their own success and happiness over giving birth. Many support that women have the duty to give birth because they were created to be fertilized and to procreate is part of the natural cycle of life. On the other hand, some believe that it is the culture shared by society that shape how women decided to live their life. Women interviewed by Stanton and who voluntarily decided to be childfree agree with this worldview, but still challenge it because their desire not to have kids is counter-cultural and outside the norm. I have always been concerned about this aspect of being a woman, because the conciliation between the professional life and to be a full-time mother seems challenging to manage.

Personally, I really want to have children because I love being surrounded by kids, but I also want to pursue my personal interests by having a great career in a field in which women are expected to perform constantly. Nevertheless, my desire of having children is stronger than my desire to be a careerist, which demonstrates why I would prioritize giving birth over anything else. However, I do not understand why many are judgmental toward women who refuse to procreate and why it would be unacceptable for those women to choose personal interests over a family life. I believe it is not appropriate for society to decide whether it is good or bad for women who choose not to have child. I am strongly convinced that the choice to give birth or not strictly belongs to women and no one should be entitled to judge their choice. Why would it be acceptable for a man to escape the family life, but not for a woman? Because, we are living in a society where it is the norm for women to have children? Because, women are created to give birth? This is completely aberrant! We live during a time period in which everyone is supposedly free to make their own decisions without being confronted to judgement. Therefore, why does this debate exists? Briefly, I believe that women have the right to decide whether they want to be a mother or not, and see their choice be accepted by others. To conclude, how is it to manage family life and career nowadays? Is it feasible to have a good life quality by being a full-time mother and being a professional leader? 

 

Work cited: Stanton, Danielle. "Ces femmes sans enfants par choix." Vero Magazine, 14 August 2014, http://veroniquecloutier.com/oser-etre-soi/ces-femmes-sans-enfants-par-c....

 

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