Give me a Relationship with no Strings Attached

by ichar1 on October 21, 2013 - 10:33pm

In the article Rebecca Stinson (2010) explains how norms about relationships and sexual activities have changed throughout time. She refers to before the 1920s were a couple couldn’t date without the approval of the family. The male who wishes to date the daughter of a family would have to meet with the whole family, spend the day with them along with the daughter and if the family felt that the two of them would be a good fit for one another, then they would give their blessing to develop a relationship. As time went by and inventions were created (for example cars) young adults found it easier to escape the whole “meet the parents/family sit downs.” The young couples would just sneak out and thus began the norm of “dating.” In the 1960s the outbreak of condoms and birth control pills came about and once again changed the norm of dating. It didn’t have to a committed relationship anymore. Now a male and female can satisfy their sexual desires without the high risk of pregnancy. This is the beginning of the no strings attached sexual relationship. Now study seems to show that university campuses are a great place for students to have sexual experiences and do whatever they please freely due to the fact that they have no parental vision on them.

Over the years sexual activity has changed dramatically. There was once a time where if a woman were to have sex prior to marriage she would be looked at a certain way and words would be said about her. She would be called things like a whore or tramp. However now in time it is not the same. If a girl is to say she has had sex prior to marriage it is known to be a normal thing. She is only called a whore or tramp based on how many “bodies” (meaning the amount of people she had sex with in the past) she have. The main purpose of this article is to show the readers how sexual activities and relations have changed over the century. In the past, couples couldn’t even date without the parents being okay with it. Now, with advanced technology along with the freedom of living on campus, young adults/teenagers do whatever they please. Living on campus isn’t just a way to focus on education anymore; it’s also an escape from the parents. There is no one to tell you, you must be home at a certain time, no one to make sure that you are sleeping in your bed and not someone else’s. Also there is no one to tell you that you are not allowed to have a male sleep in your bed or to even have sex with them. Most college students that live on campus take advantage of this freedom. I do agree with the author that sexual activity is not looked at the same way it was before. In the article, there was a study done where 32% of 7th, 9th and 11th graders said that they had vaginal sex and 74% of them had sex with someone they were not in a relationship with. I believe that for the years prior to the 1920s young adults in their 20s probably weren’t sexually active yet.


Journal of College Student Psychotherapy, 24:98–115, 2010 Copyright © Taylor & Francis Group, LLC ISSN: 8756-8225 print/1540-4730 online DOI: 10.1080/87568220903558596