Gay Marriage: Why do gay couples want to get married? Opposition, support and cynicism.

by frazeefeet on September 13, 2013 - 10:03pm

We are in a day and age where it is becoming more socially acceptable for two men or two women to display their love for each other in public by getting married. More states within the United States are legalizing gay marriage, more people are in support of providing civil rights and liberties to gay and lesbian citizens and there has been an increase in the number of openly gay and lesbian citizens which now make up 3.47% of the total population in the United States. With that being said, just because gay marriage is becoming more acceptable does not mean that opposition does not exist. There is still a large part of the population that does not agree with the idea of two people of the same sex getting married for various reasons, the two main ones being religious and political affiliations. And even more specifically, studies have shown that the main demographic of people in the United States that disapprove of gay marriage are heterosexual men.

            In terms of the actual study that took place in this article, the study focused on the subjective reasons for why gay men get married. The results showed that most people believed that gay men do not get married for love whereas most people believe that heterosexual men get married for love. Yet, ironically results also showed that most people believed that gay men were less likely to get married for superficial reasons, such as marriage benefits, than heterosexual men are.

            This article posed many valid points of how society in the United States views homosexuality. What I found to be the most intriguing was the hypocritical results that showed that even though people believe gay men are less likely to marry for superficial reasons than heterosexual men it is believed that gay men still do not marry for love. These results support the idea that we live in a heteronormative society, meaning that because being heterosexual is the norm, anything outside of that is either looked down upon or “watered down” for the general public to understand. Being openly gay or lesbian definitely falls in the “outsider” category even though acceptance of homosexuality is on the rise. And even in that sense, being gay is only acceptable to the general public to a certain extent. As soon as people begin to feel uncomfortable it is immediately looked down upon again, which I do not see as acceptance in my eyes. As cliché as it sounds, people should be able to love whomever they want to love regardless of gender or sexual orientation. Just because two men marrying each other does not adhere to the traditions of marriage, which are also a set of heteronormative standards, does not mean that they are not in love. Love is subjective and therefore cannot be viewed through an objective lens from a biased perspective. Yes, both homosexual and heterosexual men can get married based off of superficial reasoning, but they can also get married based off of true emotion. 

Comments

I chose to comment on your article because I found your subject very interesting and your title cached my attention. I totally agree with your position with the fact that we live in a heteronormative society and that we see homosexuals as some outsiders. In the same way, I do not see this way of acting as acceptable. I think that everyone should be seen as equal humans with the same rights, even if we are not all alike. I do not understand why some people are acting different with homosexuals and why they have some bad prejudices against them. I totally agree with the ethical principle sanctity of life, which means that humans should never interfere with other's life. I think that if someone discovers that he is homosexual, he should not be ashamed about it and he should be seen as an equal person. He should have the same rights as every other person that is heterosexual and nobody should ever try to take off their rights. I find that it is really sad that even in our days, some people are thinking that gay couples do not marry for love. Why an homosexual person would be less likely to fall in love than an heterosexual?

I chose to comment on your article because I have some members in my family who are gay and want to get married. I totally agree with both of you that everyone should be treated equal and have the same rights. The Charter of Rights and Freedoms grants people the right to freedom of choice and expression, the right of equality without discrimination. With that being said, those who are opposed with gay marriage are totally flouting these basics human rights. The ethical principle of equality should be applied to this case. Justice, freedom, equality and tolerance are values which are really important to me, that is why I am in favor of gay marriage. Unfortunately, you are right; we live in a heteronormative society which sees homosexuals as dropout. I do not think homosexuals see love differently than heterosexual people. As you said, love is an emotion and an emotion is relative for each single individual. Homosexuals should not be ashamed to be who they are because we need every kind of people to make a world! Why, as a society, are we not able to treat everyone equally?