Divorce either Makes You or Breaks You
by RayM on February 10, 2015 - 12:54am
In The Telegraph, the news article titled “How Did Your Parents’ Divorce Affect You?” by Helena Kealey shows the effects of divorce through an online survey which 14 to 22 year olds answered. It estimates that 42% of marriages fail and end up in divorce. In fact, the survey demonstrates that two thirds of children who witnessed their parents’ divorce admit that it affected their grades, that one in eight relieve stress through drug or alcohol, and that one in three suggest they already had an eating disorder as a consequence. The chairman of this survey, Jo Edwards, argues that the findings prove that it is important that the divorce happens “in a way that minimizes the stress and impact on the entire family”. The survey also shows that parents often put emotional pressure on their children in this situation. In fact, one in three children stated that one of their parents tried to turn them against the other; more than 75% admitted that their parents were trying to include them in the divorce. The article continues on to give an example of the ITV Good Morning Britain presenter, Susanna Reid, who explains how she is one of the lucky ones to have a good relationship with her ex-husband and to have “as good a ‘divorce’ as possible” for their three children.
As a child who has just recently witnessed her family falling apart, I can relate to many ideas that this survey is trying to prove. Like many children nowadays, I can also admit that my parents’ divorce had many consequences on me that I am only starting to realize at this moment. The fact that divorce can impact children’s grades is quite true; although, in my case, my grades thrived because my academic life seemed to be the only part of my life I wanted to focus on. On the other hand, many children experience the opposite effect on their school grades during and after a divorce. Life was not always easy soon after my father left our home. Alcohol seemed to relieve stress for a while, but I soon noticed that it was not the smartest decision considering the vulnerability I was experiencing. I knew how much this divorce was hard on my mother with all the betrayal she was suffering from because of my father trying to include all three children in the situation. Having witnessed my parents’ divorce, I believe that this is a part of the world that is worth improving on because there are many parents and children all over the world that experience it. Considering the increasing divorce rate, I still believe that honesty and communication is key to every marriage, which many relationships are obviously and sadly lacking. Divorce is always a difficult topic to share with others, but it either makes you or breaks you, so do not let it get the best of you.