Why have Children if your going to hurt them?

by Turgytosser on February 4, 2014 - 2:16pm

In the article “Father given unsupervised access to children he molested” published by CBC News on November 28th, 2013 explains that the safety and well-being of children is not always secure even though we might think it is. Many children are abused by the people who should of have given them love and safety, but instead result in pain.

In a custody case, a B.C. Supreme Court judge found the father committing the abuse but criminal charges were never to be made. The mother is suing the province, claiming it allowed more abuse to take place. 4 young children, 2 boys and 2 girls, at least 3 of them admitted to their mother of being sexually abused by their own father. The B.C. Supreme Court in Vancouver ordered the father that he could only have supervised access to his children. The Ministry decided that the mother was crazy making the children admit that they were molested so she could gain full custody of her children. The more the mother cried for help, the more she was told to be crazy. The children were then put in foster care allowing the father unsupervised access. This just resulted the continuation of the abuse. When Vancouver Police interviewed the father, they bought his story just like the Ministry did by telling them false statements. It seemed as if it was more a of a social interaction than an interview. The children were found to be sexually abused by their father and the judge gave the mother full custody and a restraining order to the father closing the case.

The mother in this article was just defending her own children, yet she gets told that she is over exaggerating. Why would she even make this up in the first place? I don’t even know how the Vancouver Police Department and the Ministry believed the father. The mother is being honest and she is the one getting all the blame. The father is not being loyal yet he is getting less accused for something he did do. This is about noticing what is right and what is wrong. Clearly, the mother should be in favor.

Most of us can’t even imagine what would make an adult use violence towards an innocent child or even how it would feel to be the victim. You shouldn’t harm someone especially if they can’t even defend themselves. No matter what he or she has done, they do not deserve to be abused. There is a difference between punishment and abuse; spanking, time-out chair or go sit in the corner is pure discipline but abusing them is a different story. I was always told my parents, don’t do things to others that you wouldn’t want to be done to you. Children deserve to live their own childhoods just like you and I did. They’re just innocent children. So why have children if your going to hurt them?

“Father given unsupervised access to children he molested.” Cbc.ca. N.p., 28 Nov. 2013. Web. 4 Feb. 2014.


I agree with you on this! The mother was just defending her children, obviously her word alone might not have passed so obviously trying to get her children to speak the truth because it is the right thing to do is totally something that any mother would do. I cannot believe that it would be seen as over exaggerating or crazy, she loves her children and she is doing what is best for her children and herself. The father should not be near the children not even with supervision if he does not treat them right with love then he does not deserve to be anywhere near them,he is a bad influence and a bad person towards his children. Punishing a child is alright depending on how you do it, as mentioned in the post time out chair or sitting in a corner is acceptable, but hitting, threatening verbal abuse, (etc) but abusing the child is totally on another level. No child deserves to be abused even if they're disrespectful and do not behave;parents should be able to punish their child in a way that will not harm them. I feel like parents who abuse their children should go to prison no questions asked. In this case I don't think a restraining order was enough towards this man who abused and molested, he should of been sent to prison,obviously the ministry is not seeing clearly.

First, I found your writhing style very good and I enjoy reading your article. It captivates me from the beginning to the end because you well summarized the story and what happened, you clearly stated your opinion, and elaborated on it. In fact, I totally agree with your position. However, I think because a child admit to the court that s/he has been abused by his father does not automatically make it true. What if the mother was really crazy, and forced her children to make false statements only to get the full custody? On the other side, I think this is horrible to give the father unsupervised access when nobody can tell he is 100% sure that the children will be safe with him. The court should have found evidences that prove the innocence of the father before giving him this privilege. The mother reaction is not an evidence and should not influence the decision of the court or the ministry in this case. Is the ministry should have the right to let children see a parent that has been accused of sexual abuse, without having the evidence to tell that he never commit such a crime?

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