Why have Children if your going to hurt them?

by Turgytosser on February 4, 2014 - 2:16pm

In the article “Father given unsupervised access to children he molested” published by CBC News on November 28th, 2013 explains that the safety and well-being of children is not always secure even though we might think it is. Many children are abused by the people who should of have given them love and safety, but instead result in pain.

In a custody case, a B.C. Supreme Court judge found the father committing the abuse but criminal charges were never to be made. The mother is suing the province, claiming it allowed more abuse to take place. 4 young children, 2 boys and 2 girls, at least 3 of them admitted to their mother of being sexually abused by their own father. The B.C. Supreme Court in Vancouver ordered the father that he could only have supervised access to his children. The Ministry decided that the mother was crazy making the children admit that they were molested so she could gain full custody of her children. The more the mother cried for help, the more she was told to be crazy. The children were then put in foster care allowing the father unsupervised access. This just resulted the continuation of the abuse. When Vancouver Police interviewed the father, they bought his story just like the Ministry did by telling them false statements. It seemed as if it was more a of a social interaction than an interview. The children were found to be sexually abused by their father and the judge gave the mother full custody and a restraining order to the father closing the case.

The mother in this article was just defending her own children, yet she gets told that she is over exaggerating. Why would she even make this up in the first place? I don’t even know how the Vancouver Police Department and the Ministry believed the father. The mother is being honest and she is the one getting all the blame. The father is not being loyal yet he is getting less accused for something he did do. This is about noticing what is right and what is wrong. Clearly, the mother should be in favor.

Most of us can’t even imagine what would make an adult use violence towards an innocent child or even how it would feel to be the victim. You shouldn’t harm someone especially if they can’t even defend themselves. No matter what he or she has done, they do not deserve to be abused. There is a difference between punishment and abuse; spanking, time-out chair or go sit in the corner is pure discipline but abusing them is a different story. I was always told my parents, don’t do things to others that you wouldn’t want to be done to you. Children deserve to live their own childhoods just like you and I did. They’re just innocent children. So why have children if your going to hurt them?

“Father given unsupervised access to children he molested.” Cbc.ca. N.p., 28 Nov. 2013. Web. 4 Feb. 2014.

Comments

I chose this piece of writing to respond to because I feel it is an important issue that should be talked about more, not necessarily child molestation but child abuse in general. I agree with you saying that it was wrong of the ministry to not believe the mother because she was being honest the whole time, also simply not charging the father was not a good stand point. I stand behind this because I value compassion, and a father who would do that to their children is not compassionate, and the ministry deciding that the mother was lying is also not compassionate towards the children. I also agree with your discussion about adults using violence with children. I feel that family is very important and when violence is used against children, especially in this situation, the value of family is diminished. I also stand behind the moral claim of do no harm, and this father doing this to his children is indeed harmful and for an unnecessary reason. However, was their sufficient evidence to determine if the father was guilty at the time of the court case?

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