Why have Children if your going to hurt them?

by Turgytosser on February 4, 2014 - 12:48pm

In the article “Father given unsupervised access to children he molested” published by CBC News on November 28th, 2013 explains that the safety and well-being of children is not always secure even though we might think it is. Many children are abused by the people who should of have given them love and safety, but instead result in pain.

In a custody case, a B.C. Supreme Court judge found the father committing the abuse but criminal charges were never to be made. The mother is suing the province, claiming it allowed more abuse to take place. 4 young children, 2 boys and 2 girls, at least 3 of them admitted to their mother of being sexually abused by their own father. The B.C. Supreme Court in Vancouver ordered the father that he could only have supervised access to his children. The Ministry decided that the mother was crazy making the children admit that they were molested so she could gain full custody of her children. The more the mother cried for help, the more she was told to be crazy. The children were then put in foster care allowing the father unsupervised access. This just resulted the continuation of the abuse. When Vancouver Police interviewed the father, they bought his story just like the Ministry did by telling them false statements. It seemed as if it was more a of a social interaction than an interview. The children were found to be sexually abused by their father and the judge gave the mother full custody and a restraining order to the father closing the case.

The mother in this article was just defending her own children, yet she gets told that she is over exaggerating. Why would she even make this up in the first place? I don’t even know how the Vancouver Police Department and the Ministry believed the father. The mother is being honest and she is the one getting all the blame. The father is not being loyal yet he is getting less accused for something he did do. This is about noticing what is right and what is wrong. Clearly, the mother should be in favor.

Most of us can’t even imagine what would make an adult use violence towards an innocent child or even how it would feel to be the victim. You shouldn’t harm someone especially if they can’t even defend themselves. No matter what he or she has done, they do not deserve to be abused. There is a difference between punishment and abuse; spanking, time-out chair or go sit in the corner is pure discipline but abusing them is a different story. I was always told my parents, don’t do things to others that you wouldn’t want to be done to you. Children deserve to live their own childhoods just like you and I did. They’re just innocent children. So why have children if your going to hurt them?

“Father given unsupervised access to children he molested.” Cbc.ca. N.p., 28 Nov. 2013. Web. 4 Feb. 2014.


Your title really brought me to open up your argumentative post so good job on that ! I agree that people really should not have children if they are going to hurt them. I am actually confused on how the courts and police officers actually thought the father in this situation was right, because in a lot of cases involving custody of children, most of the time custody goes to the mother because she is the birth giver (even if it is completely unfair and wrong sometimes), which is why I find it odd that knowing the accusations they still went with that the father was saying. Over all I agree that children should not be abused and that spanking or sitting in a corner for a time out is a completely acceptable form of discipline. I think child abuse goes against the values of family, respect and security because for one family is not suppose to harm family. Second respect is key to any relationship, both ways. And three, security because it is most definitely not safe for the child who is getting abused by their loved ones. It's completely wrong. To whoever thinks this argument is wrong then take this into consideration, would you want to get beat up or sexually abused..?

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