Do you really need to commit to this man box ?
by Unknowntoyou on November 4, 2014 - 11:26am
First, what is this man box? It's the rules that men have to obey to fit in society, and to not be criticized for being different. It ranges from how a man is supposed to act, his limitations, and his behavior towards others. This box shows men that they are not supposed to cross a certain line, or else they have to be prepared to suffer the consequences. These consequences go from personal insults, physical violence and even murder. This box is supposed to police men on how to become real ''men''.
I feel like it's mostly women that police this man box the most. They always have their expectations set high, which is probably why a lot of young men struggle to conform to these standards. We teach our kids, mainly the boys how to be strong and how to defend themselves against their peers. Fathers that have young boys, always try to teach them how to fight and how to be protectors. It's also very important for boys not to show their true feelings. Any sign of a man crying is really bad. Because he will probably be insulted of a ''woman'' , ''pussy'', ''fag''. We need to stop dictating all these norms that men have and not to do. I personally do not fit in this man box for many reasons. It's not that I feel bad about it, it's just pathetic that we teach our youth these kind of things. To only get respect whenever you fit in this man box, is pretty disgusting. We need to let our kids enjoy their childhood and not corrupt them with these rules.
Furthermore, we tell them that a man is supposed to be strong, and a woman is supposed to be weak. What kind of example are we setting for our kids, telling them that this is what our society is mainly. Telling them that women are weak, this gives them the will power to lay their hands on them, like it doesn't mean anything.It disgusts me that these kind rules are taught to our young boys. In hoping that we can better ourselves and see that teaching our young boys to hide their feelings and to be brute against others can be distrastous.