"Morning After" Regrets in College

by sgrup2 on April 14, 2014 - 11:44pm

A hookup can be defined as a sexual activity from kissing to sexual intercourse between two people that could be in a relationship or not in a relationship. Researchers found that alcohol consumption and hooking up have a high correlation. Fielder and Carey, two researchers on this topic, found data that stated 64% of their first semester female sample reported drinking at least one drink prior to hooking up and on average the females had 3 drinks before hooking up. From this study, researchers concluded that both male and female partners who hooked up were drinking before. Scientists were trying to find reasoning behind why drinking alcohol promotes sexual activity and they found the college student perceive alcohol as both facilitating and even a motivation for sexual interaction. Not only did researchers find that alcohol is correlated with hooking up but they also learned that females were less content with post hookup than males. Females are more embarrassed by the act the next day and males are more proud. Two main risk factors related to hooking up are drinking prior to hooking up and have a sexual encounter with an unfamiliar partner.

            The authors of this journal want to inform current college students about how alcohol affects your willingness to hookup with someone. The author wants college males and females to be aware of what can cause a hookup and the harm of hooking up with someone unfamiliar. I can relate to this article because I am a college student and this happens all around me. When alcohol is involved many people are looking for someone new to hookup with and having alcohol in their system can lead to a bad judgment on who they may hookup with. This happens a lot in college and there are many experiences I heard from my girl friends and most of them regretted their decision to hookup with their partner. It is important that college students realize the harmful effects alcohol could have on ones decision-making. Having sex with unfamiliar partners could lead to unwanted pregnancies, STDs, and unsafe situations.

 

Reference: LaBrie, J. W., Hummer, J. F., Ghaidarov, T. M., Lac, A., & Kenney, S. R. (2014). Hooking Up in the College Context: The Event-Level Effects of Alcohol Use and Partner Familiarity on Hookup Behaviors and Contentment. Journal Of Sex Research, 51(1), 62-73. doi:10.1080/00224499.2012.714010

Comments

I completely relate to this article, when I was younger I was guilty of doing things like this. Often I would go out for a few drinks and find a girl who had been drinking and it often led to one night stands. If I was sober or not drinking at all I had no intentions of doing things like this however after I had been drinking this became my top priority. Every single time the girl had been drinking too and it usually is not just one or two drinks it was quite a few. The next morning I would tell all my buddies while she usually left quickly after waking up looking ashamed.
Your article focuses on 3 great true facts. One, that alcohol usually affects someone’s judgment and willingness to have a “hook up.” Two that most hookups happen after people had been drinking. And finally three, that men usually brag about hookups while women usually feel ashamed. The reason I decided to stop doing this was because I realized I would never have a solid relationship with any of these actions and every time I went out I was risking receiving an STD. I decided not to do it anymore due to the risks to myself and others. This article was right on and I would like to see more research done in this field.

I'd say most if not all college students can relate to this article, whether they have experienced something like this before or they know someone who has. I had many friends in high school who entered college with the thought in their head that hookups and one-night-stands were normal and just "part of college". Most of those nights for them usually ended with regret and fears of STD's and pregnancies, but all of those nights began with alcohol. It was extremely hard watching them go through this repeat pattern for months, but thankfully this has activity has stopped. During those months, my friends always blamed their actions on the alcohol, but later came to admit that they could have said no and they sometimes even felt obligated to say yes because they felt that this was normal for college. The image of sex in college needs to be changed, and this has to start with people making smarter decisions. Just ask yourself, "how will you feel about this tomorrow?"

This is a good post and provides a decent amount of information in regards to how young men and women deal with the aftermath of hooking up while intoxicated. Now, I can’t necessarily say that I can relate to this certain topic but I have heard of some stories, from mostly women, who are embarrassed or unhappy with the choice they made. I think that your blog post could have been even stronger if there was a bit more information on why women feel more embarrassed and “less content” than males when they are put into this situation. Also, on why having sex with unfamiliar pattern(s) is so frowned upon or negative in society.

This is definitely one of those posts I can relate to. Great little summary that I can agree to some degree with. Having a few drinks and then hooking up and having been drunk and then hooking up are two different things. I believe it to be true that some alcohol does facilitate interaction and may help shy people get social but too much leads to regrets and that is what should be addressed as a problem. Alcohol abuse is worse than drugs and should be, be of concern to the friends of the "hook-ups" and prevented by them not encouraged.

I appreciate that you took the time to look into the topic that is very relevant to people in this “hook-up culture.” As a college student, I too can relate to this very important topic, but I wonder if alcohol is necessarily the sole thing that guides this hook-up mentality. Although I agree that alcohol definitely stimulates the conversations and leads people to do things that they would not necessarily do when they were not under the influence, I think many college students go out with the mentality that they want to attract a partner for the evening. The goal of hooking up is what leads to the actual act, not the alcohol. Without the intention of finding a partner, whether it is for the night or for life, I find it hard to believe too much will happen. I think that alcohol can be beneficial to starting the conversation with a potential partner and that liquid courage is not necessarily a bad thing. Maybe if girls backed down from the 3 drinks and only had one or two they would be less regretful.

I find this article very interesting and was pulled in because, hey, who hasn’t heard of people in college getting drunk and hooking up! But as much as I do agree with what you have written in the article I also believe that the people that are hooking up are 100% familiar with what can happen when hooking up with someone who they do not know, or who’s history they are unfamiliar with, I think instead it as a matter of they do not care very much about the consequences. College students today seem to think that it is more like it is shown in movies, it’s a place to go out and party, have a good time and not worry about what happens. They tend to believe that they are invincible and that nothing bad will happen to them. I believe that this is because of today’s social media and the perception of incoming freshman. In order for the students participating in these drunken hookups to realize that their actions are harmful, it is sad to say that they will most likely have to be unfortunate enough for something bad to happen to them or someone very close to them. Whether these decisions are harmful or not, however, I believe that it is completely up to these students to do what they would like, whether or not they are intoxicated or have been drinking it is still their decision, and many people even go out with these intentions before they have been drinking. Don’t get me wrong, I am not one to leave a friend behind or to let them go home with random people, but if they have had thoughts about it before and know the person they are hooking up with it is ultimately their decision.

I thought that this blog post was very factual. It is apparent in colleges across the nation that hooking up often involves drinking. It is not surprising that the study you used reported that 64% of females had at least one drink prior to hooking up with someone. Being a college student myself, I see hook ups occur almost every weekend whether it be at the bar or at the party. Alcohol gives students liquid courage to do things that they sometimes would not normally do. I also grew up with 3 brothers and 3 sisters, so I have heard many stories regarding drunken nights and morning after regrets! It is definitely a college norm, but one that is very risky. Many hook ups involve strangers, so you never know where the person has been and whether or not they will tell you if they have a disease. Drunk hook ups can also involve unprotected sex, which could to pregnancy or an STD. This post was great and definitely relates to a problem that is a nationwide occurrence at college universities.

This is a great topic to bring up, especially because college students engage in these risky tasks all too often in today’s society. I believe the reason college students do this so often is because they view it as socially acceptable. Everywhere you look there is something promoting sex or alcohol, put the two together and we have a college party. All college students know the effects that alcohol has on the mind and body, but yet we all still enjoy it and do it way too often. I wouldn’t shun anyone for choosing this type of behavior to participate in, but this behavior is just not considered “my cup of tea.” Growing up in a religious family I was always taught to save myself for the man that I would marry, but let’s get real. How often does that really happen? But I do believe that there shouldn’t be any form of “hooking-up” unless there are real feelings present. Alcohol impairs your ability to actually be able to recognize these feelings or even make you mistake other feels as them. I believe that college is the place to make mistakes and learn from them, but we don’t want to get too carried away.

This post brought up some arguments that and I both agree and disagree on. As a college student, I hate to admit it, but I am not only exposed to this alcohol and hookup scene a lot but also have participated in it. Yes, I do strongly believe that alcohol does facilitate the act of hooking up especially in the party atmosphere, but alcohol doesn’t cause people to hook up. Many people consume alcohol at parties with no intention of hooking up with other people and, most of the time, they don’t. However, there are also many people that go to parties, with the intention of hooking, and use alcohol to facilitate it. People tend to forget that there are many other factors that contribute to hooking up at parties other than alcohol like social pressure and people’s intentions. I don’t think it is fair to solely blame alcohol for the act of hooking up. When people are drinking, to an extent, they are still mostly in control of themselves. I know from prior experiences that if someone really doesn’t want to hook up with someone else, then they can stop themselves. So, yes, alcohol is to blame for facilitating hooking up but there are so many other factors that are involved as well. I think it would be very beneficial to not only study the other factors that are in play, but also discuss the statistics related to male alcohol consumption and hooking up. This would not only allow both the males and females side of the story to be told, but could lead to valuable information and be used to educate college students on how to avoid the social pressure and other factors that contribute to drunk hookups.

I really liked this article because I am a college student and I've experienced the “morning after” feeling myself. I also saw many of my friends experience this too. Alcohol causes you to become friendlier and more willingly to hook up with a stranger. Alcohol consumption is not a great idea if you are going to be at a party full of strangers. Especially if you are a female because you are more vulnerable. I noticed in the article that it said alcohol is a motivation for sexual interaction. I believe that statement because you do things you normally wouldn't do with the help of alcohol and this can mean hooking up with someone you wouldn't normally talk to if you were sober. Drinking to hookup is a horrible practice because you have a higher chance of getting pregnant or catching a STD. This article provides a lot of great details about the correlation between drinking and hooking up. I would like to see the correlation between drinking and hooking up at all the SUNY schools and find out the results.

Personally when reading to this article it reminds me of all the stories that I have heard about how women were embarrassed the next ay after a “hook up”. Now I cant be pointing fingers around either because I can honestly say that I have done it. I have been a part of a “one-night stand” or a “hook up”. Looking back at it I know for sure that if I wasn’t drinking before and during the situation, that it wouldn’t have even happened. Do I regret it? Honestly, no. My reasoning behind that is it has made me a smarter person and it has forced me to be a little more carful and wiser about my decision especially if I’m drinking with some women. Some of the things that always cross the mind after a “hook up” are; did I use a condom? Am I pregnant? Did he/she have an STD? Do I now have an STD? I’m sure some of these key ideas go though every mind after a “hook up” because I know it went through mine. What I’ve learned from this awful experience is too be more mindful about what I’m doing and what I’m about to do. Be safe.

I was drawn to your post because as a college freshman myself I’ve seen this very problem affect a number of my peers. Entering college, my friends and I were thrown into the college lifestyle where alcohol is easily accessible. With this being said, I have seen a number of them fall into the trap of drunken hook ups that later they later regretted. Essentially, they all claim that alcohol impaired their judgment and they would have made a different decision if they were sober. This realization proves that alcohol, in excess, is the negative element in the equation. Therefore, students need to find a happy medium between social drinking and belligerence to ensure sexual safety. On a personally level I haven’t been affected by this problem because I’ve been lucky enough to have a solid support group at school that has made sure I made it home safely every night rather than going home with boys. I believe all students, especially girls, should strive to create a similar group of friends who can rely on one another to ensure stupid decisions aren’t made when drinking. With this in mind, I think research like the study conducted here is vital to be shared with students on college campuses. Through sharing these stories students can learn from one another and hopefully make better decisions in regards to explicit sexual activity triggered by drinking. Likewise, I think your post can inform students on the dangers that can come with seemingly harmless hookups such as STD’s, unwanted pregnancies, and unconsented sex. Using this research and similar studies students on college campuses can help one another to create a fun, but safe campus community.

I was drawn to your post because as a college freshman myself I’ve seen this very problem affect a number of my peers. Entering college, my friends and I were thrown into the college lifestyle where alcohol is easily accessible. With this being said, I have seen a number of them fall into the trap of drunken hook ups that later they later regretted. Essentially, they all claim that alcohol impaired their judgment and they would have made a different decision if they were sober. This realization proves that alcohol, in excess, is the negative element in the equation. Therefore, students need to find a happy medium between social drinking and belligerence to ensure sexual safety. On a personally level I haven’t been affected by this problem because I’ve been lucky enough to have a solid support group at school that has made sure I made it home safely every night rather than going home with boys. I believe all students, especially girls, should strive to create a similar group of friends who can rely on one another to ensure stupid decisions aren’t made when drinking. With this in mind, I think research like the study conducted here is vital to be shared with students on college campuses. Through sharing these stories students can learn from one another and hopefully make better decisions in regards to explicit sexual activity triggered by drinking. Likewise, I think your post can inform students on the dangers that can come with seemingly harmless hookups such as STD’s, unwanted pregnancies, and unconsented sex. Using this research and similar studies students on college campuses can help one another to create a fun, but safe campus community.

First off I would like to say that I love the way this Blog Post is structured. I am very intrigued by this topic that has had much recent controversial turmoil surrounded by it. It intrigues me because being a college student myself I have witnessed 1st handedly my peers drinking with a motive behind it for the night. Their purpose for drinking, for lack of a better term, is to become more “loose” on their college night. Their purposes are the same, yet the motives are different. The motive for females it is to become less shy and have a crazy night out with their girls. This being known is when the guys motives start to kick in. Knowing this, the guys drink to be smooth and try to take advantage of drunk females. That explains why the girls are embarrassed and the guys feel accomplished. One went into the night knowing what to expect and the other didn’t. It is possible for these rates to be diminished; only if females knew . . . . .

Whether the title is true or not, we can all agree that we have heard the rumor that Brockport is the top STD ridden school in America. If it is true, however, most of us can understand why. Every Thursday, Friday, and Saturday nights, a large number of the student body "goes out" to drink at off campus house parties and at the bars. Many of us can also agree that if you're at one of these places on a weekend, you will see two intoxicated people "hooking up." I believe that this is obviously because of the variable of alcohol because you don’t see this happen at or people go home for one night stands from other social places like the store, gym, park, etc. The alcohol induces us to disregard the social norm and let our sexual thoughts and urges become verbal and physical actions. This in return leads to the classic morning after regret. STD’s are a problem on college campuses because people do this too often, and when you do this, a lot of times, the random person you sleep with could have a STD and you wouldn't even know it. This constant and high rate of risk taking accumulates many STD around the people in the nightlife at a college. A couple weeks ago I was at Stoneyard and noticed there was A LOT of people making out on the dance floor, so buddy of mine and I thought it would be funny to go around and take selfies with them. At the end of the night I ended up with about 15 pictures of my friend and I photo-bombing a picture of people making out. This was just in one night at a bar for about two hours. There are about 3 or 4 popular bars in Brockport, and I’d estimate about 10 to 25 different houses to drink at on any given weekend night, so imagine how many random hookups in Brockport in that one night. Of all those hookups, I bet at least 20% had sex that night. I’m not positive with these numbers I’m just estimating, and I don't even know if these people are strangers to each other, but the point is that it does happen a lot and it is a problem that is definitely derived from alcohol consumption.

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