Bullying kills

by Kate P on October 11, 2012 - 10:27pm

Bullying is a worldwide issue that I feel strongly about. There is no exact cause as to why individuals become bullies because each case is different but there are some common reasons. One might be that an individual might have low self-esteem and bring others down to make themselves feel better. Another may be the satisfaction of having power over others. For what reason an individual might bully someone can vary but the consequences are still the same. The ones being bullied are still walking away with fear, stress and resentment inside them. It is immoral to cause bodily, mental or any form of harm to others.On October 18th, 20121, a 15 year-old boy named Jamie Hubley took his own life due to bullying. Jamie was taunted for being a figure skater and bullies attemptged to shove battries down his throat because of it. He was also teased about his sexuality, being one of the very few known homosexual boys in his school he was tromented. He changes school thinking it would help the issue but he was bullied even there. These bullies caused him to be emotionally distressed and ensued mental instability causing him to take his own life. The boy’s family had to endure the heartbreak and grieving over his death. Bullying can cause bodily, mental or any form of harm to others. Therefore, bullying is immoral.

This article is just the tip of the ice berg. There are many more cases of bullying everywhere in the world. It is a serious issue noted by many high schools. Some of these schools are very strict on bullying and have zero tolerance policies against bullying. The high school I attend took this very seriously and if the case was bad enough the bully would be expelled. Bullying is seen so frequently, it is quite hard to stop. But I found this article that discusses the reasons as to why people bully others and how to use these reasons as a plan of action to prevent bullying.

Work sited:

“Gay Ottawa teen who killed himself was bullied.” CBC News. Web. 9 Oct. 2012.

Retrieved from < http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/ottawa/story/2011/10/18/ottawa-teen-suicide-father.html >

Frisén, Ann, Anna-karin Jonsson, and Camilla Persson. "Adolescents' Perception Of Bullying: Who Is The Victim? Who Is The Bully? What Can Be Done To Stop Bullying?." Adolescence 42.168 (2007): 749-761. Academic Search Premier. Web. 9 Oct. 2012.

Comments

Karianne P

 

            I find the topic of bullying to be a very compelling one. It seems that as of recently, bullying has become more and more of an issue worldwide. It’s interesting for me to read about a case of suicide in another country than just the United States due to bullying. Just last week, a senior from the high school I attended committed suicide because he was bullied, so this topic hits close to home for me.

            After I heard about the student ending his life from Churchville, I did some research and found this website. It’s a bullying prevention center that helps kids cope with bullying and gives statistics and facts about bullying. I know it is based out of the US, but I find the information to be very interesting and influential, and not to mention a great idea.

 

http://www.pacer.org/bullying/?gclid=CO2Z94OyiLMCFYKK4Aodb3gANA

Bullying is such an interesting topic and so upsetting when you hear of kids being bullied and sometimes committing suicide. You were completely right about why bullies become bullies. A lot of the times like you said, is because they have low self- esteem and in order to feel better they need to put others down. I liked how you used an example of a real life story of someone committing suicide as a result of bullying. When people watch it on the news and read stories about these situations they become more aware of the effects of bullying however some people think that it would never happen to them.
    In my high school there were many suicide attempts some of the people I knew, and some I didn’t. Either way, it left an impact on everyone in my school. One of the boys in my school was a freshman when I was a senior and was bullied all the time. I didn’t know him personally but I knew many people that knew him. He just came to school and apparently liked a girl who thought he was “disgusting.” Her and her friends tormented him for it and made him feel like he wasn’t good enough for them. A few weeks later he was put in the hospital for trying to drink bleach. Thankfully he survived but it left a huge impact on his life. My principal had a guest speaker come and he acted out different bullying scenarios that were indeed true. My school, having about 2,000 kids in it, left everyone in tears. Some victims even stood up in front of the school and spoke about their cases and how it affects them. I think even our schools now should have speakers come or even just assemblies talking about it. Talking about it definitely helps a lot and when people see the reality of these situations it can change them.
    One website that can help your blog and the “statistics” of suicide when it comes to bulling is,

Bullying and Statistics
http://www.bullyingstatistics.org/content/bullying-and-suicide.html

Bullying is a very contraversial and concering topic. it makes me sick to my stomach to think that people would bully somone to the extent to make them want to take their own lives. It seems that bullying is not only becoming more common among schools and communities, but more intense. The fact that bullying is becoming so horrible that it is being more commonly linked to suicide shows that our society is becoming more harsh as to social interaction. I like that fact that your article demonstrates a real life example of bullying because it shows that bullying is not a joke and is somethng that should be taken very seriously.

I'm from a very small town in western NY and just last year at our high school there was an incident with bullying. The boys wrestling team was acused of "hazing" which is a type of bullying where older kids tease and taunt the younger kids. This type of bullying is most commonly associated with sports teams. As a result of the hazing two kids were injured and and the whole wrestling team was suspended from meets. The wrestling coach was also fired as a result of the bullying issue. I beleive that more people should read articles like yours concerning bullying, in order to become aware of this socially growing issue.

Im providing you with a link to a bullying website. This website has statistics on bullying, different types of bullying, such as cyberbullying, and the website also has ways to prevent and how to respond to bullying. I think this website will provide you with lots of information for your topic concerning bullying! http://www.stopbullying.gov/

 

Bullying is and big issue that needs more attention and action towards it. It is starting spread from the younger groups of children to adolescents and teenagers. This issue has been something I always felt strongly about. There aren’t enough people standing their ground on this issue until something serious happens. It’s too late at the point. There needs to be something done before a person hurts themselves or someone else. Many teenagers are committing suicide over bullying. Children can’t speak up for themselves in fear of humiliation. It is up to us as adults, parents, teachers and law enforcement to resolve this issue.

As a child I was a victim. I was always told to stand up for myself. That this wouldn’t stop if I just sat around and let it happen. I always felt like that was the wrong approach. How can you tell a child that they have no one to protect them? All of my friends sat back and let other kids call me fat, big feet, push my around and do other threating and mean things. IT wasn’t until I actually hit someone back was there something done about the issue. I was the one who got in trouble. What message was I being sent then? That if I finally stand up for myself I get in trouble? As a young child I did think if I were dead none of this would be happening. That is not something a child should be thinking about. NO ONE I don’t care at what age they are should want to end their life.

More parent need to look at this as a sign to help their children; weather they are being bullied or are the bully. There needs to be more peer mentors in schools. Somewhere these children and teenagers can go to talk to and express there feelings. This can help with whatever aggression they have that is driving them to be this way. Also for those children that are afraid to speak out about what is happening to them. There are many things that can be down to help decrease this issue. Some just wait unit it’s too late. Peers need to step up and say something. It only takes one word. And that is STOP!

Don’t silence yourself when you see a person bullying. This person can be a member of your family. STEP UP!

 

http://www.vancouversun.com/news/months+after+Amanda+Todd+suicide+still+...

I agree on the fact that bullying is bad. Even more, it is unacceptable. However, in a society as Quebec’s where there are numerous campaigns to make people realize how suffering bullying can be, the number of suicides related to bullying has increased. Why? Because with Internet permitting us to have everything we ask for with a simple click, it has become easier to destroy someone’s life by the same action.

For instance, Amanda Todd, 13, that got cyber bullied and has committed suicide during the past year. Authorities have not found yet the responsible of this cyber bully even though several months have passed since this tragic event.

How can we expect people to understand the danger of bullying if the bullies do not get arrest? How can society expect change? There is no way this is going to change except if every individual makes an effort to bond as a whole to face this problematic.

Bullying is and big issue that needs more attention and action towards it. It is starting spread from the younger groups of children to adolescents and teenagers. This issue has been something I always felt strongly about. There aren’t enough people standing their ground on this issue until something serious happens. It’s too late at the point. There needs to be something done before a person hurts themselves or someone else. Many teenagers are committing suicide over bullying. Children can’t speak up for themselves in fear of humiliation. It is up to us as adults, parents, teachers and law enforcement to resolve this issue.

As a child I was a victim. I was always told to stand up for myself. That this wouldn’t stop if I just sat around and let it happen. I always felt like that was the wrong approach. How can you tell a child that they have no one to protect them? All of my friends sat back and let other kids call me fat, big feet, push my around and do other threating and mean things. IT wasn’t until I actually hit someone back was there something done about the issue. I was the one who got in trouble. What message was I being sent then? That if I finally stand up for myself I get in trouble? As a young child I did think if I were dead none of this would be happening. That is not something a child should be thinking about. NO ONE I don’t care at what age they are should want to end their life.

More parent need to look at this as a sign to help their children; weather they are being bullied or are the bully. There needs to be more peer mentors in schools. Somewhere these children and teenagers can go to talk to and express there feelings. This can help with whatever aggression they have that is driving them to be this way. Also for those children that are afraid to speak out about what is happening to them. There are many things that can be down to help decrease this issue. Some just wait unit it’s too late. Peers need to step up and say something. It only takes one word. And that is STOP!

Don’t silence yourself when you see a person bullying. This person can be a member of your family. STEP UP!

 

Kate,

I really enjoyed reading your blog post and the topic you chose because I feel that lately, bullying and people taking their lives because of it have been prominent in not just mine, but in everybody’s lives. I liked that you included an example of this but I also wanted to point out that a lot of people believe that bullying only has to do with the younger generation and this is very far from the truth. Recently, in the town next to mine, a couple of middle school kids were taped harassing an old-aged bus monitor. The video was released and became popular worldwide.

In your second paragraph, you talk about how if a case of bullying was bad enough students could be expelled and I definitely agree with this method of trying to control/stop bullying. In the example I mentioned above, the group of kids were only exempt from riding the school bus and were suspended from school for a short period of time. I believe, given the circumstance, this was an expectable punishment but I feel that in cases far worse than this, letting children off easy will not teach them how bad bullying really is and they will continue to do it. I believe that parents should take courses on how to teach their children right off the bat about bullying and why it is bad and when those kids enter an older age, they should also take classes. I also believe that schools should have harsher punishments for bullying no matter the extent of the teasing going on to prevent kids from doing it at all. This article http://ehis.ebscohost.com.ezproxy2.drake.brockport.edu/ehost/detail?vid=2&hid=116&sid=36746640-5d23-4d84-a49f-ec53f431f5bd%40sessionmgr104&bdata=JnNpdGU9ZWhvc3QtbGl2ZQ%3d%3d#db=a9h&AN=74667172 might help you with some more ideas. Overall, great blog, I can’t wait to read more!

This article caught my attention because of the title, Bullying Kills because I agree with this statement. It may be an age – old hypothetical saying but in our very recent times, bullying does indeed drive many adolescents to suicide. Such as an example, in my home town there were two suicides committed in the past year due to bullying. In one case, a fifteen year old girl was bullied and called names both during her life and after she took her own life. As immoral and inhumane as it appears, her classmates still made mockery blogs and cartoons of her after she jumped in front of a transit bus with a suicide note in her pocket. Her name was Amanda Cummings and one cruel joke was, “I guess Amanda didn’t see that bus ‘Cummings’ “.

                Another interesting aspect of your article was your input about bullies’ psychological reasons as to committing these acts. They harm others but for many numerous reasons and it does put these events into another perspective when motives are discussed. This article , “Bullying and its Underlying Mechanisms”  may be of interest to you and help you develop your idea - http://www.education.com/reference/article/reasons-for-bullying/

The reason I chose to respond to this article is because when I saw the title “Bullying Kills”, I was reminded of a case of bullying in my hometown of Greece, New York where a bus monitor named Karen Klein was bullied by Athena students. Due to the way I was raised and the reaction that my community gave to the Karen Klein case I also agree that bullying is very immoral. Growing up, my parents made it very clear that bullying was not something that was accepted in my family or society, instead they told me that I should put my effort into making people feel better about themselves and making friends. Also growing up in Greece, the schools that I attended had a very strong policy regarding bullying, if anyone was caught bullying they would be expelled.


            Karen Klein was a bus monitor in the town of Greece who was made fun of by middle school kids, in the video you could see that the boys told her that she was fat, poor, and that she should kill herself. I believe that this was a horrible thing for those kids to do and I was glad that the school punished them instead of letting it pass. What I think a good solution would be to stop bullying would be to inform kids about the effects and consequences of bullying at an early age. They should show these kids past events so that they could gain good morals before they start to accept bullying into their lives.


 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E12R9fMMtos


 This is the video of Karen Klein being bullied by some of the Athena students. I believe this video will provide an example of a bullying case that people could be shown to stop bullying.

Almost everywhere now bullying is taking over schools. This is why I loved your topic so much, because it has so much depth dealing with todays society. One thing about your blog that i really found facinating was how you brought in a real life situation such as the tragedy that happened to Jamie Hubley. It is horendous to see how cruel kids can be in school. Another part of your blog that I liked was the parts dealing with a reason to which why bullying is such a problem. The two reasons you listed, I found to be completely true. Bullying really makes those who preform the act make themselves fel better and give them a sense of power. The downside however is that they don't understand what the bullied have to go through.

In my opinion the reason to why bullying is so easy to get away with in highschool is because teachers just do not having the training to look out for it. It has become such a huge problem in school that teachers should be required to take extra classes to look out for this problem and be more aware of it. I decided to do my own research and I found an article about suicides in Rochester. MPR News states two teen deaths resulting from bullying. The ways they took they're lives completely shoked me. After jumping off a bridge, or any other form of suicide, I am deeply disturbed by what I had just read. Bullying is most definitely a problem in todays society and I bleieve it must be stopped soon.

I really like the title to this blog, it stresses how negative and harmful bullying is. Bullying has recently become a major issue all around the world. However, bullying has been occuring for decades. I remember the bullies in my small graduating of seventy students. These bullies verbally tormented other students they believed to be weaker and inferior to them. Unfortunately, my best friend was my personal bully. I allowed her to call me names and verbally abuse me because we did have good days where we got along, and she had low self-esteem so I felt that I needed to be there for her. I had attempted to lightly inform her that I did not like how she treated me, but she just ignored me. I also knew that the teachers and other school staff would do nothing because I had seen how they handled the other bullies. I finally confronted my best friend and we stopped talking for months. Finally, she realized how cruel she had been and apologized. We still talk to this day.

I feel that is important to focus on the bullying that occurs in schools. Administrators need to place greater consequences on bullying and ensure that the other students know thqat they will be able to go to their teachers or counselors for help. There is a website created by Dr. Ken Rigby that focuses on ways to stop bullying in schools. It discusses options for parents, schools, and bystanders. I hope it is beneficial to your blog. I hope this helps keep you moving in the right direction.

http://www.kenrigby.net/

 This topic is very close to my heart. I am from a small town where everyone knows everything about everyone and bullying is prevalent. I was bullied my junior and senior years of high school and it was hell. I ate lunch by myself everyday and hated going to school. I'm not sure why I was the target of bullies but I was. Thankfully I had my family and my best friend to help and support me through the situation. Bullies can literally make life hell on earth for children. My mother once told me a story about when she was in school and a severe case of bullying. A kid was picked on everyday to the point where he felt there was nothing else to live for. So one day he walked to the back of the bus opened the emergency exit and jumped out and killed himself.

Bullying has become a serious issue today in America. I am so glad you are blogging about this topic because the more awareness is raised i hope the issue can be reduced and eventually even resolved. I think schools and parents need to be more strict on bullying and make more serious consequences when cases are reported. Look at the Amanda Todd case. The poor girl sent revealing pictures of her self to her boyfriend and then he sent them to the whole school. Her classmates were relentless. The bullied her in school, to her face, and even on facebook. People on facebook begged her to kill herself saying things like I hope this time you succeed. She did. It breaks my heart and I hope we can come up with a solution to this very pressing issue.

Here is some material that may be useful:

www.stopbullying.gov/prevention/at-school/index.html  

Chelsea Menio

This article’s title really attracted me because recently there has been so much controversy about this particular issue in the media and I have so much emotional relation to it, I figured it would be great to comment on. In my opinion, the most difficult part about being a teenager in high school, and these days the age group is getting lower and lower, is dealing with other teenagers. High school, and not that bullying only exists in high school, but it is a cruel and dangerous place. There are so many cliques and “in” and “out” groups, it’s ridiculous. If your peers see you as an outsider, there’s nothing worse because they will pick on you. Even if there’s nothing really wrong with you, they will find something to tease about.  I believe that a growing aspect of bullying these days is cyber bullying. One way to rid cyber bullying, especially with young teens, is for the parents to not allow them to possess a social network account such as Myspace, Facebook, Twitter, or Tumblr.

This year, at my former high school, a student who was only a freshman took his life because of cyber bullying.  It's sick that there are teenagers who find pleasure in crushing someone's spirits to the point that, that person does not want to live anymore. However, when the cyber bullying comes to this point, it is crucial that the parents become involved. When I was thirteen years old my parents would not let me belong to a social network. I didn’t understand why at this age and of course I was angry at them for it. Although, when they finally let me have one at sixteen I realized how much sex appeal there is on these sites. It’s disgusting to see, twelve year olds, let alone older teenagers half naked on their profile pictures. Cyber bullying seems as though it has become a huge trend, not only in America, but around the world. I believe that the solution begins with the parents. The parents of the bullies and the parents of the victims. 

http://www.stopcyberbullying.org/parents/youth_empowered_solutions.html, there is one link that you may find useful in your research. 

I completely agree with you that bullying is a serious issue that needs more attention brought to it. I believe that no one has the right to inflict emotional/ mental harm on another because as a result stress and fear damages a person’s health. In my opinion, bullying issues comes down to a person’s selfishness in pleasing their own needs while hurting someone else. I think that it’s crazy that young teenagers are taking their own lives because of other people’s selfishness.

 

I lost my dear friend Amanda ten months ago who took her own life due to being bullied by other girls in her school over her relationship with another guy. Amanda grew up in my neighborhood in Staten Island, New York and I noticed how people became concerned with the fact of her being bullied after she took her own life which is unacceptable. All schools should have stricter policies on bullying which all faculty should enforce.

 

http://articles.nydailynews.com/2012-01-03/news/30586229_1_facebook-page-girl-and-police-gentle-soul

Bullying is indeed a problem in society and has terrible side effects on people whom are the bullied. People bully for many reasons, they were once bullied, and trouble at home, attention, and some just like the joy of having someone who is seemingly weaker than them. I do not agree with it, defenseless people are hurt and the bullies have in more than one way obstructed that persons’ life. Emotional destruction plays a major role in bullying, people do not want to wake up and know that there is someone who is waiting to pick on them. This could be a reason why the young man took his own life. Deaths due to bullying take a toll on everyone; the parents and family of deceased and the person who caused the emotional breakdown which lead to suicide is now in guilt.

Bullying is the beginning of a causal chain that may lead to suicide. When discussing the topic "Bullying Kills", the first thing that comes to mind is suicide as a result of being bullied. This causal chain starts with bullying, the victim of bullying commonly enters a depression and/or demonstrates self destructive qualities which unfortunately lead to many suicides. Bullying is a very touchy subject as there is no solution for it seeing as the problem is commonly very deep rooted. The bully is usually a young child who has problems or troubles that root from home, the bully then manifests his anger and troubles and takes it out on his peers. That being said, unless all problems at home can be solved, it is highly unlikely that bullying will come to an end, and lets be honest, that goal is unattainable.

You touched an important issue since bullying is a major problem in our society and many people prefer to not talk about it (but it is important to inform people). The theory of Deontological Ethics fits well with the issue of bullying since deontologists focus on a duty to avoid or practice certain actions. Many people look at the issue of bullying from a deontologists point of view since they believe that we have a moral duty not to bully. Even if bullying one person helped five others, bullying is always bad. Bullying is immoral and each and every one of us have a moral duty not to bully.

A recent case happened last week where a 21-year-old man got hit 6 times with an empty beer bottle after telling a guy he was good looking. The homosexual got a black eye and a scar on his upper lip. Not only is he physically scared, but this incident will scar him for life. Being bullied isn't a forgettable thing. It hurts and the victim can't do much to escape it.

If you want to learn more about this boy, please read the following article:
http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/montreal/gay-man-beaten-in-st-tite-in-appa...

I was compelled to read this post because bullying is a serious topic that needs to be considered as the reason young adolescents are becoming troubled. This is a problem that affects most teenagers around the world. When I was back in high school, I had a lot of friends that were bullied by other members in our grade. The pressures of being "skinny" led them to hurt themselves and them having to be hospitalized. I came across a reason why people tend to bully others, it's because they might have been bullied themselves in the past.

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