Domestic Violence Against or By Women?
by cynthiachu on September 11, 2013 - 9:29pm
Violence against one other has always been said to be unmoral, unethical, and unjustified. Sadly, some people have sometimes the strange mania of using violence as a way of correction, vengeance, or even just for fun. Domestic violence, for example, has never been a new “practice” nowadays. In fact, according to J Epidemiol Community Health1, 25% of women experience partner violence in their life in western countries. But have you ever considered the percent of the men? In fact, what made me thrilled to read this article was that it was not talking about domestic violence against women but against men, who are usually thought to be the abuser in this sort of situation.
In this article2, there was an incident at the supermarket in the Kingdom of Saudi Arabia where people witnessed a couple that was having an argument. Thereafter, apparently, the woman started to beat her husband with her shoes in front of everyone.
The reason I wanted to write about this article is because the victims of domestic violence are usually thought to be women. There are always been some stereotypes towards a relationship or even towards the gender of the person itself. In fact, the problem with the fact that men are considered the ‘’alpha male’’ of the relationship is that there are only a few resources to help male victims. And because of this social conception, the majority of them rather keep silence to avoid humiliation.
Also, in opposition to the widespread impression that people have about domestic violence, men are actually more victimized than women. According to Philip W. Cook, the author of Abused Men-The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence3, 2millions of men have experience domestic violence on the contrary of the women who are found to be 1.8million in a year.
One has to know that being sexist can be seen in both ways whether to stereotype the men as strong and, therefore, as abusers in the relationship or to free the women from blame in domestic abuses because they are considered as the weak one. Overall, we need to change not only the conception we have on both gender concerning domestic violence but also in general.