What Gay Marriage Can Teach You
by afros1 on February 23, 2014 - 7:24pm
It is no revelation that the divorce rate in the United States is relatively high compared to other countries. The question many Americans are asking is, “why”? The answer to this is not quite understood, with each couple being unique from one another, but the solution may lie with gay and lesbian unions. Many conservatives argue that gay marriage will erode marital norms and disrupt the already fragile link between children and marriage. Studies, however, have shown that same-sex marriages are actually more stable and geared toward equality than heterosexual marriages. Studies conducted by Pepper Schwartz, Philip Blumstein, Charlotte J. Patterson, Esther Rothblum, and others have shown positive results in gay and lesbian in constructive marriages and their roles in child rearing (Mundy, 2013, p. 60-61). According to Rothblum’s studies, heterosexual couples were more likely to divide domestic duties by traditional gender lines than homosexual couples. Three years latter, Rothblum found that homosexual marriages were also at a higher satisfactory rate than heterosexual marriages and were less likely to engage in hostile arguments. Patterson’s work showed that both heterosexual and homosexual partners interacted with their children in very nurturing ways, but homosexuals were more willing to interact with their partners and share the experience than heterosexual couples.
Liza Mundy is not trying to persuade the reader that gay marriage is the answer to solving the marriage crisis, but is trying to illuminate to the fact that it isn’t its biggest nemesis. She accepts the fact that the traditional structure of marriage is changing and in order for future traditional marriages to be operational, our society should look at the nontraditional forms that are showing a higher rate of success. Mundy provides several detailed studies and sources that support her hypothesis of gay marriage being able to help the way marriage is seen in our society. Though her topic changed from the high rates of divorce and unwed pregnancies in America to gay marriage being a possible positive influence on our culture (which became confusing at some points), her article was well thought out and organized. After reading the article, I was thoroughly convinced that gay and lesbian marriage could be the answer the high rates of divorce and unsatisfactory marriages in America.
Mundy, L. (2013, June). The gay guide to wedding bliss. Atlantic Monthly, 311(5), 56-70.