The road to recovery after an abusive relationship.

by knaeg1 on October 25, 2013 - 1:07am

 

In America abusive relationships are more common than most people would like to think.  Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) is a situation where an abusive takes place within a wife and husband, boyfriend and girlfriend, or in same-sex relationships.  These people experiencing the abuse can still be partaking in the relationship, or the relationship could be already terminated.  In statistics done about intimate partner violence, women are affected 7 times more than men are in this type of situation.  This led the study to pursue the recovery and emotional states of battered women.  Battered women are survivors of domestic violence.  This violence is not only physical and sexual, but also psychological and economical.  When women are put through a battered relationship, a good option for them to recover is career counseling to increase confidence.  The career counseling proposed for these women is called SCCT.  The three steps in this counseling are self-efficiency, outcome expectations, and perceived barriers and support.  This should help the women in the future not only get a job, but maintain it in the future.  Battered women have not only the challenge of getting out of an abusive relationship, but also the challenge of getting a career afterwards.  At the end of the article a personal story of Tameika, a 29 year-old woman of African descent who experienced abuse within her nine-year relationship.  Throughout the article it tells of her story of getting out of her abusive relationship and then her journey for a job afterwards.  By using interventions this article shows tells of how women can empower themselves after an abusive relationships, and find career opportunities after the abuse they had faced for so long. 

            All research has a fundamental purpose and goal.  This research aims to depict the problems that abusive women or as the article states as battered women face finding a job after leaving an abusive relationship.  The main purpose of this article is to give the statistics of women facing an abusive relationship.  Along with having a hard time finding a job, these women have a long road ahead of them in recovery from the previous years of abuse they face.  In the article the researchers conclude that women who are in abusive relationships have negative career and educational goal expectations.  In order for these women to get over an abusive relationship they must face the problems that lie inside of them after facing the abusive relationship.  The article focuses on how to recover after the relationship as well. Some of the things the article states as helpful in overcoming this type of situation is a good support system, trust with your counselor, and goals to set for you to reach for in the future.  This article not only does a good job at setting the definition of a abusive relationship, but also giving valid examples of who this happens to, and how to fix these situations.  The article even goes as far as finding someone who went through the process within the article, and shares her story.  The road to recovery is not easy after leaving an abusive relationship, but this article has the potential for people reading it to listen to it’s words and heal.  Intimate partner violence is a very real thing as this article points out.  

Comments

I can relate completely to this article. When I was younger my parents had a very violent and abusive relationship. It did not help that my dad was an alcoholic. Abuse is everywhere in the world. It does not matter sex, race, or nationality there is abuse. That is so very sad. That is one reason why the world cannot become better due to all this abuse. Your post was just beautiful to read. You truly have a talent. Keep doing the best you do.

I can only imagine how hard it must be for these women to be able to live through this, and still manage to be productive in the workplace. I think it is great that we have these organizations such as the SCCT that provide the help that they need, and lets them know they are not alone.

I really enjoyed reading your blog it had a lot of facts in it and a lot of good points. It’s sad that there are a lot of abusive relationships going on in the United States. I find those who are capable of packing everything up and leaving their abusive partner some of the strongest people ever. The crazy part is that there are some people who don’t leave the abusive relationship; instead they stay and wait “for it to get better.” Little that they know it won’t get better if they stay in that relationship. I applaud the battered women though. It takes a lot of strength to get up and leave a relationship. I definitely applaud Tameika for her ability to leave her 9 year long relationship. Like you said the road after leaving an abusive relationship isn’t easy but it’s good to know that there are people strong enough to know when enough is enough and they are strong enough to move on.

It’s sad to think about how an abusive relationship works. I don’t think people understand how difficult it actually is to leave someone when you are in that situation. The woman may be dependent on the man and doesn’t have anywhere else to go so she is stuck there. Matters can be made even more difficult if there are other people in the mix such as children. You wouldn’t want to take the father figure out of your child’s life. There’s so many aspects that go into an abusive relationship and it’s scary to think about the people who have to deal with this every single day.

I think the worst part of an abusive relationship is how long it takes for the one being abused to get out. The woman whose story was shared in the article was in an abusive relationship for 9 years. I cannot even begin to imagine the struggle she went through to get out, not just physically, but emotionally, too. To be in a relationship for that long, knowing full well that she shouldn't be there must've been so hard, especially when you've committed your life to that person through marriage. You make a commitment "for better or for worse" and a lot of people try to stick by that. I think that the progress the US has made with abuse, especially with women, is very significant though. There has been so much more talk about it and new programs and shelters offered that make it a little easier for someone who is going through this. I think when you know that there is a support system that can help someone through this, and help them try to move on with their lives, there will less people sticking around for 9+ years to get out of an abusive relationship.

I think the worst part of an abusive relationship is how long it takes for the one being abused to get out. The woman whose story was shared in the article was in an abusive relationship for 9 years. I cannot even begin to imagine the struggle she went through to get out, not just physically, but emotionally, too. To be in a relationship for that long, knowing full well that she shouldn't be there must've been so hard, especially when you've committed your life to that person through marriage. You make a commitment "for better or for worse" and a lot of people try to stick by that. I think that the progress the US has made with abuse, especially with women, is very significant though. There has been so much more talk about it and new programs and shelters offered that make it a little easier for someone who is going through this. I think when you know that there is a support system that can help someone through this, and help them try to move on with their lives, there will less people sticking around for 9+ years to get out of an abusive relationship.

Abusive relationships are actually much more common then actually perceived and that is very sad and depressing. I think that there is a very important part is left out of this article and your post however. What about the other side of the story? It's not only women who are the victims in abusive relationships. Although I'm sure it is very less common its not fair to completely forget about the other gender. It's possible that I am a little insensitive because I have never had any experience with this topic. I do sympathize for all the people who have to deal with the baggage and emotional toll that comes with an abusive relationship but will never fully understand.

Until I experienced and saw relationship abuse firsthand, I never knew how serious and dangerous it was. Growing up, my family never really talked about domestic violence and I never really seen it where I grew up. I only thought abusive relationships happened to people who put themselves in situations like that and now looking back at it, I realize that was a very ignorant thought .The first time I saw anything close to domestic violence was in the movie Enough starring Jennifer Lopez I used have less respect for the women in the relationships because I could never seem to understand why they wouldn't get out. Now older I realize that there is always a reason behind every action. . One of my best friend's was in an abusive relationship with her boyfriend that she had been going out with for a year and a half. They seemed fine to me, they got into a few arguments here and there but I never thought of it as anything serious. I knew her boyfriend had some anger issues and insecurities but I never thought it was serious to the point where he could be a threat to someone or even be dangerous. Their arguments started getting worse, and he first started off with verbal abuse. He would call her names and write rude things about her on social media, then take it back and they would be good again, temporarily. Then he started taking it too far and started getting physical. One day he pushed her to the ground and then that was it. Me and my 4 other friends ran to him and basically "fought" him because our friend had been thrown to the floor. After that she broke up with him, even with his constant attempts to get back with her. After she broke up with, I saw a change in her not right away but slowly, her grades started getting better, she was no longer sad or angry and she was able to graduate on time.
Until this situation I never realized how serious abusive relationships are and how hard it is for some women to get out and create a new better life for themselves. Coming out of an abusive relationship is not an easy thing, it is very traumatizing. Women need all the help that they can get I think it’s really amazing and resourceful that we have centers like the SCCT, that help women pick back up the ruined pieces of their lives.

It’s wasn’t often that I heard about domestic violence in my environment growing up. It is an issue that lots of young women, unfortunately have been dealing with and still have to deal with. It is popular enough in today society that we are warned and advised in school and on advertisements either on posters around the city or on television. This is an important topic in our culture since women were one of the main culprits of oppression in the past. Recently, singer, Kelly Rowland, released a song that talked about her abusive ex-husband who she had been in a relationship with for 10 years. This was extremely brave of her, the first step of her recovery was to release it through art. Even though career counseling may be an effective effort to overcome this situation, there are many woman who you may think have beautiful lives and beautiful jobs and it’s not until they get behind the door at home where they are abused and battered.
I really like the idea of this news summary. The fact that they have this option available is beneficial to these young women because it happens too often and many women are afraid to speak up. Maybe this will encourage them. Many people are unaware of what an unhealthy relationship is, and stay because they “love” the person that is abusing them and they don’t think they are capable of living without them. In our region this is a prevalent incident for all age groups. There are many counseling programs throughout NYC, and help for women who have been in this situation is easily accessible.

In this day and age its very sad that domestic violence still goes on. From Rihanna and Chris Brown down to regular civilians, domestic abuse is among all of us. I found this article very interesting because I remember watching TV shows when I was younger and not understanding why the female could not leave the relationship. One of my closest friends was in an abusive relationship with the guy verbally and physically abusing her and I saw firsthand the struggle for her to leave and I could not understand why the relationship turned out the way it did. I respect Tameika for leaving her nine-year relationship because I know it could not have easy. For some people, it depends on how they were brought up whether they have a father figure or if there own family members experienced abuse. As well as their confidence level, to know that they deserve better and should not be subjected to this type of behavior. I couldn’t imagine what I would do if I was in an abusive relationship, its easy to say what you think you would do until your in the actual situation. Any women that can leave an abusive relationship are strong women in my opinion and deserve much more then they are given.

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