Piecing My LIfe Together

by mlegr8 on November 18, 2013 - 11:50pm

The film Somewhere Between is a documentary directed by Linda Goldstein Knowlton, which follows the journeys of four Chinese young girls who explain their lives as adoptees by American families. Some of the girls are interested greatly in finding all that they can about their birth families back in their villages in China, some even have the hope of going overseas to meet them if the opportunity arises, while the others have less of an interest in learning about why they were ever abandoned. Having lived in America for nearly their whole lives, the girls, to me, seem to fit right in with the culture, language, attire, schooling and much more and seem to be comfortable with where they are in their own lives and in this country. The hidden message, though, is that though they all would never trade what they have been given by being adopted, the questions they have about what life could have been like for them before are overpowering and worth finding out.

               The one thing that immediately caught my intention and something that I never really thought was true, because I am not an adoptee, was that the girls actually wanted to meet their birth parents. I feel, because I live with my birth parents, that if I were to ever have been adopted my initial feeling would be that I would have strong anger and remorse towards my birth parents, always wondering why I was not good enough for them to keep me, was I not loved? In particular, Haley’s story must be extremely inspiring and hope giving to adopted children all across the world. Another part of the film that I didn’t realize happened often, was that the adopting parents desired very much to make the Chinese culture still a strong part of the girls lives, with one mother even learning the language and most of the families traveled to China with their daughters for them to experience what it possibly could have been like. A social issue that is evident in the film, that seems to have the most devastating effect on the girls, is that one of the biggest reasons that all of them were initially abandoned was due simply to the fact that they are girls, and in China having a boy in the family is necessary because they will bring financial success. To know that you were given away because of physical attribute that you have absolutely no control over, I can imagine is quite heart aching. Another part of the film that struck me as quite a harsh social issue and interaction is that by being not only a minority by race but also the minority of being adopted, Haley is interrogated by one of her friends asking her rather rude questions about being Chinese. It is clear that she is disappointed and upset that her own friends have to point out why she is different, however, she somehow shakes it off and moves on. Lastly, the story Hang or “Jenni” was the most inspirational to me. Jenni traveled to China and found the little girl in pink who seemed to being lost mentally and not moving at all because of her cerebral palsy, but as soon as Jenni spotted her, her dedication to find her a family was out of this world. By the end of the film she finds a perfect family fit for the little girl in the pink. This story struck me as inspirational because of my dream to be a pediatric nurse. The impact that not only Jenni had on the little girl but also the impact that the little girl had on Jenni, was extraordinary and is what I hope to be a part of one day.

 

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