How will you find your soul mate? Online dating as a risky endeavor.

by frazeefeet on November 5, 2013 - 12:20am

Cellular devices. Social networking. Online dating. All are means of constant communication that are very common among most people today. Online dating especially has been becoming increasingly popular. We all want to find that special someone, whether it be for a long-term relationship or just for casual sexual interactions, and online dating makes that process much simpler and more attainable for some. Yet, with this accessibility there comes risk as well. Within this study by Danielle Couch, Pranee Liamputtong and Marian Pitts titled, “What are the real and perceived risks and dangers of online dating? Perspectives from online daters.” These risks associated with online dating are discussed and measured from the personal experiences of actual online daters. The participants were interviewed online, either through email or instant messaging, in order to remain within the context of the study. Through these interviews of 29 participants it was discovered that highest risks of online dating that online daters take into consideration are deceit, sexual risks, emotional risks, violence, and the risky “other.” Yet, even with all of these dangerous risks in place, people still continue to participate in online dating.

            Essentially, the main purpose behind this article is to emphasize the risk that is affiliated with online dating. There is nothing wrong with exploring that realm, but people are correct to be cautious of how they present themselves and how much information they put out there on the internet. It is very common for some online daters to lie about certain things, whether it is their age, gender, interests, body type, etc. This becomes an issue when real connections start to be made, such as when face to face meetings are organized but do not go as planned because one of the online daters was deceitful. This is when sexual risk, emotional risk and violence really become apparent among online daters, and is also why STI’s are much more commonly seen among those who not only participate in online dating but become involved with sexual interactions that were facilitated and organized through dating websites. One must be careful because due to the overall risky nature of the internet in general, it is hard to depict those that are deceitful from those that are genuine. The risky “other” is always a possibility and if we are to take part in this form of social networking and interaction, we must do so carefully and intelligently. 

Comments

I really like your post. It is beneficial to know the right information about people before getting too attached to them and then end up getting your heart broken and whatnot when who you have imagined the person you’re talking to really is. I can relate to this post because my mom was on a dating site for a while. And her experience was pretty interesting. She used to come home after the blind dates with them and tell me that they are barely ever who they really say they are. And that’s a downfall of social media. All the advice I can give is be careful of who you meet on social media sites.

I really like your post. It is beneficial to know the right information about people before getting too attached to them and then end up getting your heart broken and whatnot when who you have imagined the person you’re talking to really is. I can relate to this post because my mom was on a dating site for a while. And her experience was pretty interesting. She used to come home after the blind dates with them and tell me that they are barely ever who they really say they are. And that’s a downfall of social media. All the advice I can give is be careful of who you meet on social media sites.

This post caught my eye because this plays a role in everyone’s lives now a days. Online dating is more common in our world today, and many people engage in the act. But you never know who you’ll meet when someone is hiding behind a computer. Which is the scariest part of all of this. People will say who they aren’t just so they don’t lose that person their engaging with. Strong relationships can develop through online dating. Which could also be followed by disappointment or go very well. More people should get educated on this topic and know the risks. Despite the risks, people still engage in the act. For some people the life of online dating can get addicting and becoming an overwhelming lifestyle. A huge part of technology and online dating in today’s age is many people are losing many social skills. I agree that everyone wants to find that special someone and people will go to great lengths to achieve that. Also I agree that people need to be aware of who they are talking too. One could be easily fooled and tricked during online dating. I think this a great post and is relevant in this day in age. Everyone should get educated on this topic and know the risks. Technology and online networking is so popular now that there may not be a way to fully help this problem, but efforts towards this could help tremendously. You never know who’s behind that computer.

I agree very much with this post. I am not a firm believer of online dating due to these same risks. How well do you really know someone from behind a computer screen? you don't know what a person is about, the person on that other end of the computer only shares with you the information they want you to know and it may not be truthful. I think online dating is really dangerous, I've heard many dangerous stories on how people date online and how someone ends up missing or harmed. I think the best relationships are established through physical contact and being friends with the person in person. a strong relationship cant be built through exchanges of text messages or IM'S, there needs to be physical contact and history. my family background doesn't support online dating, its is looked down upon by my parents because you just never know who is out there and who someone really is.

This is a good post because social networking is really taking over the world. When I read the title it drew me in because I was just having a conversation with someone about online dating the other day. My friend is taking a developmental class where she learned that the majority of single women in their mid-twenties tend to stay single for most of their lives, which is sad and bizarre to me. Many people are turning to online dating because it is easier to find someone that way, especially as one grows older. It is really interesting to read about the different risks that online dating holds. Shows like Catfish also show us the horror stories that can come with online dating. My mother started online dating only a couple of years ago. When she would go on dates she would tell me and two other people where, when, and who she was going with just incase. She met her long-term boyfriend through online dating and he is great so maybe I am just biased, but I do not think all online dating is bad! I agree that it is always good to be cautious and safe when it comes to online dating. I enjoyed your post so thank you!

This a great post because people need to be informed about this kind of social media! We are so used to Facebook and Twitter but the difference is, for the most part, we actually know the people whom we friend or accept as friends. So those networking sites do not necessarily contain the same riskiness that online dating sites do. When signing up for online dating, you are creating a huge risk for yourself because people may lie about their information and not be who they say they are. If I'm not mistaken I don't there is a spot on the website that says are you a convicted criminal? And if there ever was no one would ever agree to say yes. There have been many horror stories about online dating site and relationships. The show on MTV called Catfish, is an amazing example of people finally meeting their significant other and finding out they aren't always who they say they are. I agree with your post because maybe it isn't all that bad, maybe there are good people in the world. If someone is interested in it they definitely have to take precautions before participating in face to face meetings. Simple things like telling someone where you are going before meeting and keeping them updated while on the blind date. Great post!

I really agree with what you said, but it is not all white or all black. For sure there is bad stuff happening with Internet dating, but there is not only freaks on websites. People know the dangers when there are dating online and they should always take in consideration what kind of information's they are providing about themselves. Internet dating is becoming really popular, unfortunately in my point of view, but there is many of 'normal' people simply looking for someone and not doing something freaky. There will always be people looking for trouble everywhere, there will always have traps everywhere, but yes people should be very careful while doing it.
Good article.

I agree with the arguments that you have pointed out about online dating and its risks. Times are changing and communicating with people is much different than it used to be. There have been many improvements with new technologies and ways to connect to people. Unfortunately, people are not using the advancements in technology to their advantage. Because of this, there are many risk factors when meeting and communicating with people over the computer. It is true that you never know who you are actually talking with and it is important that you take the right precautions when doing so. When using an online dating site, you never know if the person you are talking to is who they say they are. This is a social problem that we are experiencing not only in the United States, but in other countries as well. There is no real way to avoid communicating with people when owning a cell phone. In this day and age, that is what people do. Being a college student, I feel it is absurd to have to use an Internet source as a way to meet a girlfriend or boyfriend. However, I have not experienced the difficulty in meeting someone when I am not surrounded by opportunities to meet people every day. If people were to be intelligent and take precautions when using online sites, many harmful and dangerous situations will be prevented.

This is such a great post and it really caught my attention when I came across the title because online dating is so popular now a days. With social networking and the internet playing such a big role in our lives these days, online dating has really begun to take off. I know so many people who have either tried it themselves or know of someone who has tried using it. Some having successful outcomes and others not so successful. In my opinion, online dating is a personal choice and it is something that is offered so some people take advantage of it. But at the same time people should still always be cautious and aware of the not so good things that are on them and the dramatic events resulting from online dating situations. I agree with all of your arguments about the risks of online dating. You can never be totally sure of who you're actually talking to through a computer screen. I myself would never resort to using an online dating site just because of all of the things I've seen and heard about them and it just doesn't sound like something that I'd ever want to get myself into. I feel this way mainly because of the influence my parents have on me, and the fact that they think its kind of bizarre too. Also because of the media and many things in society that portray online dating as "weird" or "different" and not fitting into the norms and how the way two people are supposed to meet. Overall, this was such a great topic to discuss and a very well written article.

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