by JustSomeGirl on November 4, 2014 - 9:20pm
Why is it that men are expected and taught from early ages not to show any emotion? If he is sad, suck it up, if he is in love, it's probably with his brain down south and not his actually heart and feelings because that's "so gay" and guys are not supposed to fall for a girl they're supposed to "smash her" and make his buddies proud, he has to pretty much be a brick wall. Yet, women, generally speaking, always say they like a man who shows emotion and shows what he truly feels and wants and will cry in front of us when something’s bothering him. But when he does do that, show us his feelings or cry, the first thing coming out of our mouth is "what kind of a faggot is he, crying like a little girl? I won't even bother because he's being so gay right now it’s embarrassing” or something along those lines. Women, even if we do not notice or admit that we do this, do, do this much more often than we should.
As much as it is men and boys in general, from ages as young as five, who are being taught not to show emotion and become conditioned to believing that this is the way "men" are supposed to be, women are conditioned to believe it as well (sorry to break it to you girls). This "man box" is not only something men police, but something women do as well. We have this guy right there under our nose, which is everything we say we want, shows emotion and is not afraid to cry in front of us or tell us what is on their mind, but we suddenly find it “not manly enough”. Women expect men to be strong, powerful, successful, good looking, charming, tough, sexy, and, but has to pretty much act like an asshole, for him to be “dateable”. Personally, if a man is good looking but acts like an asshole, it is completely ruined for me.
What everyone in general doesn’t realize is by making these men “man-box” men, we are ruining them, and doing so so so much more damage to them than we think. In past classes we have been talking about masculinity and what over time has been described as a man and what you as a man have to do to fit in. Being emotionless and keeping all your feelings in is one of the things among being successful, good looking, powerful, strong etc… These men are becoming more and more depressed, due to the simple fact that they cannot speak their minds and how they feel for the fear of being looked upon and called names such as “gay, faggot, a little girl, a wuss” or “a pussy”. At young ages, they feel like they have no one to turn too, not even their fathers who are supposed to be there for them as guides through their young preteen, pre-adult years, paving their futures; for the fear that they will tell them to man up and grow a pair cause they are acting worse than their 7 year old sister who didn’t get her Barbie doll for Christmas. These men who are supposed to be shaping the men of our future are making them become everything they should not be!
We we should just start letting men act however they'd like, and not teaching them to become this ideal "man-box" man.